This person is earnestly harming some body. It is way too much drama.

This person is earnestly harming some body. It is way too much drama.

She will not wind up if you stop seeing him, BTW, so this isn’t about you stepping out of the way with him even. It is simply. You shouldn’t be a right component with this any more. Do not rest with anybody who is really so careless towards other people. Simply. Do Not.

PS. I do not think you really need to acknowledge her message. You might help her, I’ll pop back in here if I can think of some way. She actually is demonstrably pretty obsessed. You are most likely not the individual to clue her in as to how heartless this person is though she really really needs to know towards her, even. Published by jbenben at 6:30 PM on January 18, 2013 12 favorites

When I asked him her, he said I don’t know- wtf!

Huge flag if he was going to continue to see. On a FWB basis – which it doesn’t seem likely she’d want if she claims they’ve broken up, what is he going to do – sleep with her? Or lie to her and pretend like he is stopped seeing you (or someone else)? Or he will keep leading on a FWB whom demonstrably wishes (and believes she’s got) more, even though he does not?

It really is a strange solution it doesn’t paint him in a light that is trustworthy. Published by rtha at 6:35 PM on 18, 2013 january

This: I became contacted by my FWB’s “girlfriend, ” telling me personally because he kept cheating on her with me that it was over between them.

He had been completely blase and reported which he knew she had more powerful emotions for him, than he did on her, which he ended up being maybe not her boyfriend, but that she ended up being their other FWB.

Equals verification that her allegation holds true. He considers her an FWB is wholly unimportant. He knew she had more powerful feelings for him.

I will be not able to get together again the chance which he has had a gf this entire time with my perception of him as someone. Once I confronted him, he failed to appear nervous or uncomfortable– simply put he don’t behave like he would been caught.

That is because he had beenn’t “caught” cheating on you. He had been caught maybe not caring about another person’s feelings. He doesn’t care if he’s caught not caring since he doesn’t care about other people’s feelings.

Then that is a new situation. When they were fwb and she dropped for him.

I believe that is where you will need to dig deeper in terms of your very own viewpoint concerning the matter. Let’s hypothetically say as he admits, she fell for him and believed that they were boyfriend/girlfriend. Then let’s assume that he’s telling the truth that he knew that she had those feelings but that he nevertheless continued (and may still continue) to have sex with her while also having sex with you that they were FWB, and that.

Consider this: exactly why is that the various situation? Published by The planet Famous at 6:37 PM on 18, 2013 16 favorites

When I confronted him, he did not seem nervous or uncomfortable– in other words he didn’t act like he’d been caught january.

I believe it is a lot easier to fake being generically relaxed than to fake a psychological response really appropriate to a scenario. In cases like this, if he had been telling the facts, some appropriate reactions might consist of “WTF?! ” incredulity or vexation/disgust with his other FWB, possibly even surprise and laughter at her behavior, along side some form of upset over just how it impacted you. But relax? Perchance you understand him to be a remarkably even-keeled character whom handles anxiety without nervousness or disquiet, but because of the circumstances, this indicates almost certainly going to function as demeanor he has got practiced for the previous 12 months while lying their pants down and hiding anything from everybody. I am confident that is a situation that will need a great amount of extremely relaxed, non-nervous lying to display.

That is just one single point. In line with the whole photo, I would recommend dropping him like a rock that is hot. Published by Monsieur Caution at 6:52 PM on 18, 2013 2 favorites january

She had been improper inside her message for you, but he does not appear therefore appropriate inside the discussion with you.

Bigamy occurs with astonishing frequency, where some body has two whole marriages, homes, and sets of kiddies, thus I’m not certain why you believe some one could not inform someone “Oh, we are a couple that is exclusive and someone else “Oh, we are buddies with benefits” and make it down for a long time. Maybe she travels a complete lot for company. Possibly he tells gaydar her he travels a complete great deal for business, but he is been investing the period to you.

It surely comes right down to him or not if you believe. He is known by you, we don’t. Published by Sidhedevil at 6:53 PM on 18, 2013 january

Delivering A twitter message is “crazy” nowadays? Jesus Christ. This woman isn’t a chick that is random an unrequited crush attempting to stir up shit. It is confirmed that she is at minimum resting with him, and it is literally confirmed that he had been either cheating on her behalf or stringing her along, both of that are dickish actions on their component. Could be the previous worse? Yes, definitely. Does he be removed well in either situation? No, not especially.

There is no method around it: you are likely to need to think one individual and think each other is filled with shit. Actually, predicated on my experiences that are own I would side because of the woman. The sisterhood, you realize. YMMV. Posted by dekathelon at 7:01 PM on January 18, 2013 20 favorites

Okay, let’s not pretend.

No body in this thread gets the damn that is first whether or not the “girlfriend” is crazy or whether your FWB is filled with shit. Or both. You are not getting advice that is good you are simply seeing a display of men and women’s various biases, presumptions, and prejudices.

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